Look and move forward not back

The future should be more important than the past.

The past should be looked at to see what we can learn from it. It should be used to make the future better. It doesn't do a lot of good dwell on how it was not what we would like. Instead we should focus on us all making the future better. We should not be holding people so much by what they did in the past but what they are presently doing and working with them to be in agreement about what the future should be. Making up consequences for the past is not nearly as helpful as helping people learn from the past. Corporal punishment does not teach to do better, it teaches abuse is okay. Education is a much better path to positive change.

Teaching against future offense over enacting consequences

Consequences aren't necessarily the be best way to make sure something doesn't happen again. They can become a reason someone doesn't do something again but you may be able to find better reasons for someone not to do something again. For instance if one gives a consequence that someone who steals gets punched then some people might stop stealing for fear of the punch. But, the thief may just focus on how to protect from the punch rather than stop stealing. Instead I would rather see people be taught the ways in which stealing is counter productive and how things work out better for everyone involved when we work together instead of against each other.

Compromise doesn't mean loss

Often people look to the definition of compromise as the first definition found on https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/compromise

settlement of differences by arbitration or by consent reached by mutual concessions

And do not realize the second definition found there   something intermediate between or blending qualities of two different things

This often leaves people fearing the idea of compromise more than they need to. Upon looking closer at a conflict of interest or dispute there sometimes is a solution in which no concessions are necessary. But to find such a solution people have to be willing to communicate in a way that many are not accustomed to. This involves being willing to listen to the opposing side and accepting the possibility that while their views may be different it doesn't mean they are precisely opposite your own. Unfortunately many are stuck in linear thinking and feel that any thinking that doesn't align with theirs must go in the opposite direction when really it may only differ slightly.